Are you lost in Life?

Lost Kid by XxxChosenxxX (www.photobucket.com)

Are you lost in life? Have you ever been lost in life, or do you know someone who does? What is this feeling of “lost in life”?

Lost in life can be described as utter confusion in life; the present also the future. One, who is lost, usually doesn’t have a clue of what is happening at the moment and also the future. In fact life in future would seem bleak and fearful.

Self confidence would be at the lowest level, followed by low mood almost all the time. One would lazy to do anything. The person knows and though he tries to change the habit, the laziness persists. This is due to lack of motivation, the desire to live isn’t vibrant enough. The drive is not present, feeling hopeless is quite common. In fact life would not be seen as interesting at this point, there would be this silent emptiness.

For one who feels lost, it would be perceived all efforts to make some positive changes would seem to be fruitless, even to the extent where he doesn’t even want to try. There would a feeling of loneliness followed by fear, sometimes even in dreams. On top of that, he would perceive and feel there isn’t anyone to talk to, to listen to his sad stories or to understand his predicament. He would feel dejected; abandoned and not cared and loved by his loved one, family, friends, associates and even God. And these bring about anger coupled with confusion.

In short, “lost in life” one feels great confusion, anger, fear and also depression. It’s like a day in hell, those who has experience it knows it well.

So, how to overcome this episode of “lost in life”? It is an episode simply because it has a beginning and so it will have an end too, just like an episode. The only thing here is the person involved needs to take workable proactive actions. Without actions, the situation remains. Help can be given, but it can only be shown. As someone has said, “you can lead the horse to the water, but you can’t force it to drink”.

Listed below are some tips which might just help.

• Even this episode will pass, sooner or later. Nothing stays forever. Believe firmly in this idea.
• Do Prayers. Do lots of prayers, from deep down inside you, the prayers should come. Ask for guidance and normally it comes.
• Think less. Just observe things around you. Let the heart, the innermost you speak to you.
• Do meditation. During meditation don’t think of anything, even the present mess. Simply be there, alert and fully aware.
• Command your subconscious mind to find a way out. Wait for the answer, be patient, it is sure to come.
• List all the things that you want in your life. Look at the list and start working on it, no matter how small it is.
• List all your positive qualities and have a look at it intently. This would certainly boost your morale and self confidence.
• Get a hobby or even a pet. Make yourself preoccupied and busy.
• Talk to someone, someone who cares and loves you. They can be your family, friends, associates or even online buddies.
• Seek professional help if nothing works. They would be able to help you out.

Hope the article has been interesting and useful. Feel free to drop your valuable comments. Thanks and have a joyous life.

Live every day as if it were your last and then some day you’ll be right.  ~ H.H. “Breaker” Morant (www.quotegarden.com)

Life and Beliefs

My belief by Tofino65 (www.photobucket.com)

Whether you have a sound and successful life or life full of misery; depends very much on the nature of your thoughts. Thoughts which are hidden deep in the subconscious mind, and we call them beliefs. Usually beliefs are formed early in our life, making it difficult to change.

Beliefs are simply thoughts that we hold dear to our self. These beliefs are neither truth nor false. It simply is. Beliefs are normally formed by trust especially when we are young and also from personal observation.

When we were young, we observe and listen to our elders, especially our parents. They have certain ideas about many things and these ideas are usually conveyed through words and rituals. Among the many ideas, idea of life is one of it. They have their view or beliefs of what life is and ways life should be lived, and they pass these beliefs to their children. Since they are elders and people whom we trust, we tend to adopt these ideas rather easily thus making it our own belief. For example we believe in ghost though most of us have not seen one. This idea of ghost originally came from the elders and through trust we believed them. Now we believe in ghost and this is how we gather many beliefs from others, from people we trust and rely.

There is yet another way we formed beliefs. We also adopt beliefs through observation from our personal experience. Say for example, you had some bad experience with a dog when you’re young. It is quite possible that you to believe dogs are nasty.

Beliefs are very real and important in our life. It is our belief that decides how we act and react, relate to others, perceive good and bad and most importantly how we view this life. There are 2 types of beliefs, namely beliefs which are empowering and limiting beliefs. So to have a good life ahead, it is very important to adopt beliefs which are empowering. These empowering beliefs will enable you to have a positive outlook on life, thus making journey in life much easier.

Adopting a new belief is not something which should be taken lightly. Beliefs are formed by repetition; remembering certain type of thoughts until it becomes habitual, until it sinks deep within our subconscious mind. So adopting a new belief and repeating it until it becomes natural is very necessary. Apart from that, beliefs which are supported by evidence are much easily absorbed in our mind. For example if you want adopt a new belief “life is interesting”, you need to gather much information or stories of people who had their life as interesting. Read on these stories until you’re fairly convinced. Once you’re convinced it is much easier to make it a belief.

An old belief is like an old shoe.  We so value its comfort that we fail to notice the hole in it.  ~ Robert Brault (www.quotegarden.com)

Share Your Self with Others

Sharing by Roanaward (www.photobucket.com)

Oftentimes in life, we need to give before we can receive. When you give love to someone, in return you would receive love and thus feel loved. When you give happiness you become happy and when you give anger to others you become angry. To share yourself or giving what you have to others, means you need to drop the ‘I’ from your mental space temporarily, and substitute it with thoughts of others, meaning the focus or attention is not directed at you but at others. This can be very difficult to most of us, but with practice I guess it can be done.

Daily for 5 minutes, think of someone that you know. Think what you can do to contribute to his/her joy and happiness. Do it with caring, love and of course sincerely. You can also add prayers, whereby you send prayers to him/her for her well being. Do this without expectation, as with expectation the sense of ‘I’ can’t be dropped. See what happens; notice any changes either in you or the other person.

While doing this exercise, it is important not think of you. Erase the ‘I’ for the moment. Be watchful of your thoughts. Watch carefully if the ‘I’ is coming to your mental space, it will often disguise itself. Focus all your attention with love on the other person. You would experience peace, love, happiness and also joy.

In fact, this activity is closely related to the purpose of life. The purpose of life is to live life, meaning to experience things and events that you have desired for thus deriving peace, happiness, love and joy.

• Peace comes with acceptance.
• Happiness comes when our desires are fulfilled.
• Love comes when we connect to others.
• Joy comes by knowing your true self or nature.

So, by doing this activity there is a possibility for you to feel peace, happiness, love and also joy. Keep it if it works for you, discard if it doesn’t; find other ways which will work for you. Good luck trying and have a long joyous life.

You give but little when you give of your possessions.  It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.  ~ Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet (www.quotegarden.com)

Why do we need God…

A bit confused by msharp2015 (www.photobucket.com)

Why do we need God in our life? Why do we need God in this present life, here and now?  I’ve never thought of this question seriously enough until today. Upon pondering, I can’t conclusively come up with an answer or a reason that my mind can accept. I just know I need God in my life, but aren’t sure why.  I suppose I need to do more thinking and that might just help. So, guys and girls out there, if you have any ideas, share them in this blog and enlighten the world, and me too. Thanks.

Money is God

Money is God by simplybad (www.photobucket.com)

As I say, money is God. Its importance can’t and shouldn’t be underestimated. Most people know this, but few realize it. Knowing and realizing is two entirely different things, understand the difference.

Without money, life is simply a nightmare and a long one at that. Try to have adequate money. If not, find ways. Reduce your wants before you hit rock bottom. When and if you hit rock bottom, things do look nasty and ugly.

In desperation, when and if you must, get some soft loans. Loans can be from anybody; from financial institution, charity groups or even the government. The idea is you’ll repay when you’re on your foot again.

If you must beg from total strangers, do it. But avoid asking for help from friends or even relatives at all cost. Things would become very messy and ugly then. It will hurt the friendship or relationship very badly, sometimes beyond repair.  They will kill your soul, though most of them do it unknowingly.

Obviously there would be individual friends or relatives who would be wise enough to understand the situation and they tailor their ideas or advice accordingly. They will sincerely attempt to understand why you have become that which you have become. They would be compassionate and only hopes the best for you. They won’t dictate your life, and certainly won’t force their ideas down your throat. They will be more understanding and compromising and willing to work together without killing your integrity. If you have such friends or relatives, you are truly blessed, be thankful.

But then, the wise aren’t many. Most of us are just as confused as the other and our own burden is heavy enough. So, prevention is best than cure. Realize the importance of money and how it relates to the quality of life. This realization will put you on guard all the time. Best of luck, have a long joyous life.

One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well.  ~ Virginia Woolf, A Room of One’s Own, 1929 (www.quotegarden.com)

FRIENDSHIP

Friends by Dongarcia0802 (www.photobucket.com)

I have been toying with this idea for some time now, and felt it would be nice if I could write something about it now. What is friendship? Different people have different opinions on friendship; these definitions vary according to their experience. However there are some general traits which apply to true friendship.

A true friend is someone who would be beside you regardless what you are going through in life. In true friendship there is respect, honesty, trust, loyalty, love, acceptance, caring and fun. True friend respects you, supports you, and encourages you when you are down. True friends cheer you when you are depressed. True friends guide and motivate us on the right path. It is with a friend that we share our desires, goals, fears or even secrets.

Some people are comfortable with few friends while others have many friends. It is not number that matters actually, it is more of the quality. Even if you have few but true friends, it is a blessing, an eternal blessing. True friendship is a precious gem, a rare treasure. True friends bring immense joy; it is a greatest gift one can have.

But then the reality is we do come across superficial friends in life. Friends who do not have the characteristic of a true friend, there are just there for an ulterior motives. These types of friends can be damaging, especially mentally and emotionally. They are friends on the surface only, but in reality they are not friends at all. What if you have friends who belong to this type? Rather than living with resentment, anguish and self pity, it is wise to discard them and save yourself from the trouble. Why adding difficulty to life when life itself is already difficult. You would be better of without them. Save yourself, discard these types of friends and make new one. If you are sincere and value true friendship, new friends, true friends are bound to come.

I’m quoting here a beautiful poem that I’m fond of, which describes the beauty of true friendship, courtesy of Joanna Fuchs (www.poemsource.com)

My Everything Friend

You magnify my happiness
When I am feeling glad;
You help to heal my injured heart
Whenever I am sad.

You’re such a pleasure in my life;
I hope that you can see
How meaningful your friendship is;
You’re a total joy to me.

By Joanna Fuchs

`When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.  The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares’, – Henri Nouwen (www.quotegarden.com)

Happiness Attracts Money

Luv N Money by Svining (www.photobucket.com)

We like money! Most of us like money, but does the money like us? I guess this is rather an important question. Money seems to have thoughts of its own, likes of its own. It gets attracted to certain type of people while it shuns others. What type of people attracts money? From my observation, it seems money prefer to mingle around with happy people, people who are happy with their life, people who are happy with what they are doing.

Looking closely, we can see successful people are generally happy, and money likes to be with them as well. Money visits them in drove and visits them often too. Is this because successful people are happy? Let us just assume it is the happiness that attracts the money most.

Another important point that I’ve read somewhere, there are 2 common traits among successful people. They tend to do (work):

1. What they know best.
2. What they are most passionate about.

Looking at these points, it is logical to say, when these people do what they know best and are passionate about, they are likely to be happy. And being happy they get spotted by money, and so frequent visitation happens. This brings about more happiness, and it creates an endless chain reaction.

What am I saying? Choose a work that you know best and one that you are passionate about. By doing so, you would be happy and that happiness will eventually attract money. Hence you become successful; you have happiness as well as money.

“Find a job you like and you add five days to every week. Blessed is he who has found his work; let him ask no other blessedness. He has a work, a life-purpose; he has found it, and will follow it”, Liu Yonghao.